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VUYOKAZI NCIWENI TALKED ABOUT PAINFUL HEARTBREAK WITH MPUMELELO MSELEKU
Izingane Zesthambu reality TV star’s Vuyokazi Nciweni painful breakup with her baby daddy, Mpumelelo Mseleku, was a step toward her freedom, she reveals.
The 26-year-old mother of two, 4-year-old Mhlophekazi and Nzulu, who turns 1 in November, opens up in an exclusive interview about regaining her dignity, finding love, and what lies ahead of her. This is her story.
“Leaving the father of your children is never easy. It wasn’t an easy choice for me, but it was necessary,” Vuyokazi shares.
Her relationship with Mpumelelo was shown on reality TV, and she admits it became too toxic to continue. What started as a polyamorous relationship meant to lead to a polygamous marriage quickly took a sharp turn.
“Leaving has been a huge relief. That time in my life was so confusing. The person leading the relationship didn’t know what he was doing.”
“Now, I don’t have to feel unloved or worry that someone else is getting more attention. I also wanted to protect my health and that of the other women involved,” she said.
The couple was together for five years, and Vuyokazi admits that the first two and a half years were wonderful. But everything changed when he moved to Johannesburg from KZN.
The relationship became exhausting, with their pride causing problems and leading to constant fights, without any support, especially from his family. People often told her to respect him or risk losing her place as the first wife.
“The decision to leave was mine, despite all the advice I received. Last year, I asked myself if we still had a future together, if we could become a strong couple, or if we’d just be stuck in a cycle of arguments with only the kids to show for it.”
“I chose myself. Even if I had stayed and gotten married, I wouldn’t have been happy. The marriage probably would’ve lasted a month before we split. My heart was tired, and I knew what was coming. Leaving was the right thing for me,” she said.
Vuyokazi’s eldest daughter was raised by her paternal grandmother, MaYeni, but after her relationship ended, she knew she wanted to raise both children together so they could grow up knowing each other.
“It’s not hard raising two children, but it has its challenges. Both babies want my attention, sometimes at the same time,” she said, giggling. “But I love having them around.”
“Mhlophekazi was raised on that side because both families agreed that I’d marry into that family. But as the plans changed and it became clear that wouldn’t happen, I knew she couldn’t grow up without me. Especially now with a sibling, they needed to be together,” she said.
Although she hasn’t had a clear conversation about co-parenting, admitting that she and her children’s father still struggle to communicate, Vuyokazi is open to the idea in the future.
“Look, I don’t dislike him—I never did. I was just angry, but I’ve forgiven him and have moved on. We had good times together, and I will always respect him as the father of my children. One day, I hope we can heal enough to put our children first and maybe have our parents intervene.”
What might have seemed sudden to the public—Vuyokazi’s lobola negotiations—was actually the result of two years of courting by her now-husband. The reality star reveals that she was pursued for two years through DMs and emails before they ever met.
“I didn’t notice his attempts until the day we finally met, and he pointed them out. I was shocked to see how hard he had been trying to get my attention. After that, we started talking every day, even though he’s based in the UK,” she shares.
“I was over my past relationship by then, so this wasn’t a rebound like people think. I took the time to get to know him, did some background checks, developed feelings for him, and even spoke with people from his past.”
Throughout this process, including when her husband trended for the wrong reasons, she admits she felt overwhelmed and experienced anxiety attacks.
“But I believe in God, and I didn’t expect Him to bless me with someone so soon. I honestly thought I’d be single for the next five years. But I’ve been blessed with an amazing guy who has also been through his own tough times in life.
In this relationship, Vuyokazi says she feels safe and protected, and she’s sure she made the right choice by choosing herself.
“I feel like my dignity has been restored. He accepted me with both my children, and I respect him for that.”
Vuyokazi confirms that she will not be returning to Izingane Zesthembu but has many plans to build herself as a brand.
“Things are looking very positive, and my future is exciting,” she said.
